5 Life-Changing Tips To Be More Confident With Your Bare, Feminine Self
From young girls to grown women, the emotions of awkwardness, embarrassment, insecurity and even feeling ashamed of our naked bodies is nothing new.
Even when no one is looking and you’re all alone, exposing the curves, the contour and the weird shapes of your own body can be a very uneasy and uncomfortable task especially when it seems as if no one else looks like you do.
What I’m about to say might sting a little, but I’m going to say it anyway.
The truth is: “you are not that unique.”
The stretch marks, the cellulite, the hyperpigmentation and the strawberry skin plastering your legs, might make you think differently in contrast to the perfect beauty you see online.
And I know that hearing others say that these things are very common and should be celebrated instead of looked down upon, probably won’t do a lot in increasing your overall mood or the way you perceive these insecurities at all.
But!
These sayings are still very true.
Yes, we sparkle with individuality but I truly believe we are more alike than we are different.
So with that being said, here are 5 life changing and gratifying ways to feel more confident and comfortable naked ;)
Let’s Dive In :)
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#1 Learn How To Feel Confident With Your Clothes On
If it’s challenging for you to find beauty and artistry in yourself when you are fully clothed, then it will seem like an impossible task to find attractiveness in yourself when bare.
Loving the way you look when you are dressed is one of the first steps in loving the way you look when you are absolutely naked.
It’s important for you to appreciate the frame and the beauty of your body that is accentuated with various fabrics, colours and patterns, so that you can ultimately admire your body without decorations at all.
Attempting to simply ignore and push those pestering thoughts about your appearance to the back of your mind as you try to walk out the house with confidence, might only be a benefit to you temporarily.
This is because your mind is intelligent enough to notice that “fake it till you make it” mentality which might not help those feelings of uneasiness and low confidence long term.
Instead, take a gradual approach to increasing the beauty you see within yourself.
It feels so much better walking out with true confidence than with hesitancy. There’s no need to rush. Start off slow.
#2 Observe Reality
In regards to women’s physical appearances, the lines between social media and the real world have blurred significantly throughout the years.
Look around and notice how the multitude of people you see online do not mirror the multitude of people you see outside.
We tend to be more judgmental of ourselves than others are to us.
Sometimes we can be so far gone in our heads that we forget that we are ONLY the main character of our OWN lives and not the lives of others.
This means, just like you are so caught up in yourself, most people are too involved with their own lives to have you in their thoughts for too long.
But Anyhoo…
Remember that we are more alike than we are different.
Soothe yourself with the knowledge that other people around you are feeling the exact same way, if not worse.
This is not just in relation to beauty but other things too for example, whenever there would be an upcoming exam I didn't feel 100% confident in, hearing that other students were also feeling the same way did indeed bring some sort of comfort to my mind.
This however, did not mean that I didn’t take self-developing actions to increase the confidence I lacked for my exams.
I made sure to continue to study and use the comfort I found from other students into not being so harsh on myself, recognising that the majority of us are all in the same boat.
This is all just to say, observe reality and learn how to be self compassionate.
#3 Deflect Away
Not relying on the “fake it, till you make it” attitude doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t put measures and systems in place to increase body confidence.
Most of the things that make us so insecure about our bodies are natural and are also things that we are not able to change without risk.
Before going to the extreme, try this.
Try enhancing those features that you can already see the beauty within and notice how your eyes immediately gravitate to those features whenever you look in the mirror before acknowledging the parts about you that you are not yet confident with.
I’ve noticed that a lot of fit women will notice their toned arms, legs and abs before giving attention to the tiger prints on their outer thighs and breasts.
Perhaps you have no intention on building visible abdominal muscles, there are still so many other things you can do to enhance your features and deflect your eyes away from features that may cause an instant frown.
Another one is posture. Posture is one of those things that i'm sure we’ve all been told to correct maybe as young children.
But we’ve ignored and overlooked how this simple little trait and mannerism can change the way we see our bodies.
Just like different angles can make or break an entire photo, posture can also have a huge impact on the way you view your physical appearance.
Without even talking, let your style and personality show through the way your body sways when you’re walking and the way your body poses when you’re staying still.
#4 Bring Emphasis To
Bring emphasis to your “flaws” in a way that enhances beauty. By doing this, you’re also learning to accept your natural self and feel truly confident.
Why not utilise sweet smelling glitter oils to get those stretchmarks looking very glowy, sunkissed and artful.
Here are a few other things you can do to feel confident when bare:
Get yourself a full length mirror
Apply gorgeous smelling fragrances
Don’t forget the cute, matching sets and accessories
Grooming and self-care.
#5 Be Weary Of Time
Time cannot be rushed forward or delayed backwards.
It won’t wait for you to finally feel confident enough to appreciate your naked stature in the mirror, or for you to pluck up the courage to go outside wearing that cute sleeveless top that will show your arms.
With age, it is said that maturity increases too.
Eventually you’ll get to a point where this won’t be an issue to you anymore and you’ll find yourself looking back, shaking your head in annoyance at yourself for loosing sleep over these things.
Throughout life, you realise just how scarce and unpredictable time is.
You also start to realise just what a privilege and a blessing every second of the day truly is.
Worry and distaste for certain things in regards to physical appearance is completely natural, but you should never let it stop you from trying to enjoy the blessings life has to offer as this is something you won’t ever get back.
Here’s a quote for you to take whilst you leave:
Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are - Marilyn Monroe
Well, That’s It, Folks
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